Topic Tuesday: Patience

“One Day at a Time” (By: Alana Agnone)

The most important thing I have learned during recovery is patience. I’ve never been good at exercising patience, even as child. I actually believe it is my lack of patience that gets me into most of my problems. I share this with you today to encourage you or whoever you love who is undergoing recovery to remember this word.

It is too easy to get wrapped up in our own lives, forgetting the importance of patience with others and ourselves. Like me, you probably have a million things on your to-do list at any given time. The pressure and anxiety of day-to-day tasks may begin to weigh on you. Not to mention, there is a constant need to nurture your relationships with family members and friends. Right now I am in the midst of graduate school, a new job, and a change in my living environment.

I have to frequently stop myself and remember to exercise patience. Patience for my loved one’s who may not fully understand everything I have going on. It’s so important to remind myself that my relationships come first and that patience with answering phone calls and texts is vital to my mental health and overall happiness. Don’t be overwhelmed by your mother’s third missed called, she just loves you and wants to know you’re okay.

Patience with myself is the hardest. Most people with an ED have some kind of perfectionism. When I find myself under performing in school, not eating the way I want to eat, or not getting my run in because I don’t have time I must ALWAYS remember patience. I am not perfect and I’ve learned now that I don’t want to be. Some days will be great and some days won’t, but that’s okay because that’s life. Life gives you imperfect days so you know how to appreciate the goods ones.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. NO ONE has it all together. No one is walking around always happy and no one, no matter how much they try to fake it, has a perfect life. We are all struggling with something and we are all in this together. The dictionary defines patience as the following: “The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.”

Love,
Alana

About the Author

Alana was born and raised in Ormond Beach, FL with her four siblings and parents. She attended the University of South Florida and majored in Public Relations. She moved to Nashville in August of 2016 and plans to go back to school to study Nutrition at Lipscomb University in the fall of 2017. In her spare-time she loves to hike, bike, read, and do photography. She wants to become a Registered Dietitian in hopes of someday working with eating disorder patients and those with other mental illnesses. She also loves to cook and believes learning about food and nutrition has been her biggest tool in her recovery process.